Hello again everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving! So glad to have you back again for another post. This post may have a generic title, but I hope you take the time to read this one.
For a long time, I didn’t know my worth. My parents are the best I could have ever asked for and they were and are such a huge blessing in helping lift me up. But that doesn’t stop a teenage girl or a young woman from having doubts. You see, because of the mistakes I made and because of what I dealt with as a teen, it was very hard for me to believe I was worth much after everything that happened. The first guy I liked was nothing shy of a pervert. I just didn’t know that at the beginning. The second guy I liked, well, he didn’t know what he wanted and he really played with my emotions. There’s a lot more to that story but we’ll leave that one there. In those times, I felt completely worthless. Looking back, everything I endured led me to my amazing husband. But you can’t see the beauty of the future when you’re living in the present pain.
Fast forward a bit to meeting my husband, I knew my dreams had come true in him. He was and is seriously everything I hoped & prayed for. But, not everyone was happy about us becoming engaged and later that year getting married. Some weren’t happy with the person I am. My name was thrown around & I was degraded because my husband & I met and married within nine months. Rumors, crude words and other things much worse were tossed around behind closed doors. The fact that we were in love & felt we were meant for one another and didn’t want to wait any longer to start our life together, was the last thing on their minds. My family, forever supportive of us, never wavered in their love for my then fiance, now hubby.
Some have this perception of what/who you should be and when we don’t fit into that box, we’re labeled. I’ve never been liked by certain people and you know what? I don’t care, that’s fine with me. I’m okay with everyone else not being okay. No matter what you go through, no matter what people say or do, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Shatter that ridiculous cage that people are attempting to box you into. Don’t spend your entire life doubting your self-worth based on what others say about you. There will always be someone who is unable to own up to their own flaws, so they deflect and hurt you instead. There isn’t one person on the planet that is entitled to treat you like crap. That’s their problem, don’t define your self-worth based on them. It is called SELF-love for a reason, don’t look outside of yourself to find value, it comes from you!
Be strong, speak up, have an opinion and a voice. Be proud of the person you are. Be confident. Don’t dim your light just because it’s shining too bright for someone else. I’ve shared what I did with you today because I wanted you to know that there were a lot of times where I’ve doubted my own worth, it’s not something that just appears overnight. You have to work at it and there will be a lot to overcome to get to that place. Whether that’s in your own head, because of others’ criticism or both. There will always be someone who doesn’t see your worth, don’t ever let that person be you.
Until next time…